If you grew up in the hood or are conversant with gangster/mafia movies or rap, you would know that snitches really do get stitches. You can’t betray your crew and expect to go scot-free.
In the same way, in relationships of whatever kind, there is a code. It is an unwritten but holy rule that you don’t snitch on your friends. You stick by them no matter what.
However, a question was posed to me quite recently that if you had a friend who was cheating on her boyfriend and you know the guy to be really cool and not deserving of such betrayal, should you snitch on your friend (that is, going behind her and telling him about her ‘parole’), especially if you have advised her many times before to desist and she refuses?
I asked some people and they said the answer was simple and direct: thou shalt not snitch! They said snitching means you are meddling in their affair, and instead, your focus should be on changing your friend, and not ‘pouring sand sand in her garri’.
Call me saintly but that just feels wrong, don’t you think? Imagine this was your brother that someone was taking for a ride, you wouldn’t like it. Tell the guy so he can be free to find someone more deserving rather than wasting his time.
How do you even think he would feel on finding out that you knew but you never told him? It would smear your integrity as well.
Understandably, if you go ahead and ‘snitch’ your friend may think you are trying to snatch her man but what right does she even have to accuse you of such? And if you are afraid of losing your friend remember that if she is true to herself, she will know you did her a great service. However, just weigh for yourself what is right.
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